Summary: Is your fear of success stopping your from achieving your dreams? This article will teach you how to overcome your fear of success and ultimately become successful.
What is the fear of success and how do you know if you have it?
If you exhibit three or more of the following behaviours you probably have a fear of success:
- When you are on the verge of succeeding, then things suddenly start going horribly wrong.
- You get distracted easily.
- You feel like your work is never quite good enough.
- Your vision board looks the same as it did five years ago.
- You spend more time talking about what you are going to do than actually doing things.
- You struggle to complete things.
- You work like crazy on more than one project at once and don’t focus deeply on any of them.
- You tend to second-guess yourself.
The reality is that if success does not come easily to you, then subconsciously there is a part of you that does not want to succeed.
Here are the steps to overcome your fear of success:
Step 1: Ask yourself “Why am I standing in my own way?”
If are stuck in the past, this could be holding you back.
What is it about your past that you need to let go of?
What have others said about you and what have you told yourself that still defines who you are?
Face these questions head on and free yourself from the past.
Step 2: Ask yourself ” What does success look like to me?”
You need to define exactly what success will look like when you get there.
Be clear and specific on your goals.
How much money will you have? How many people will be in your network? How many people will you have helped?
Step 3: Make a list of your fears and reconstruct them in a different light.
Instead of thinking: being a success can limit me, rather say: being a success can free me.
Instead of thinking: successful people have haters, rather say: when I am a success there will both lovers and haters and I will accept and appreciate them both.
Instead of thinking: I am afraid of standing out, rather say: I look forward to be acknowledged and appreciated for all my hard work.
Instead of thinking: I am afraid of change, rather say: I am a dynamic individual who embraces change.
Instead of thinking: people will be watching me and expect me to succeed again, rather say: I am on my own unique journey and the people who support me will support me no matter what.
Step 4: List the lack of skill sets that are holding you back.
Successful people are on a continuous journey of learning.
Lose your fear of learning and you will open up your journey to success.
Make a list of the skills you know will be pivotal in your success and make a point of learning these skills.
Step 5: Surround yourself with success.
Allow yourself to be surrounded by success.
Keep a success library of inspirational teachings, books, audio cd’s, success stories and quotes.
Make sure you spend time with the right people who are also on a journey of success and who understand and support your own success journey.
The more you embrace success in your life and understand what its about, the less you will fear it.
Step 6: Be clear on what will happen once you are successful.
Once you achieve the goals you have set for yourself, what will happen next?
Will you set a new goal?
Will you go in a new direction?
Will you celebrate?
Being clear on this will help alleviate your fears along the way.